MIND,BODY,HEART & SOUL: 8/26/07

Saturday, September 1, 2007

RAAH PAKAD TU CHALTA CHAL(HINDI POEM)

RAAH PAKAD TU CHALTA CHAL

Hoslen buland kar raaston par chal de
Tujhe tera mukam mil jaayega
Akela tu pehel kar
Kafila khud ban jaayega
Mayoos hokar na ummeedon ka daman chod
Varna khuda naaraz ho jaayega
Thokron se na tu ghabra
Har padaav par apne aap ko aur mazboot payega
Nakamyaabee ki dhund se na ghabrana
Kaamyaabi ka suraj teri takdeer roshan kar jaayega.

(Author Unknown)

SOME HINDI-URDU SHAYARI

SOME HINDI-URDU SHAYARI

Yaad hum bhi apko karte hain,
Yaad app bhi hume karte hain,
Fark sirf itna hain,
Hum yaad ane pe sms karte hain,
Aur aap sms ane pe yaad karte hain.

Paas aakar sabhi door chale jate hain...
Hum akele the akele hi reh jate hain...
Dil ka dard kis ko dikhayen...
Marham lagane wale hi zakhm de jate hain.......

Gumnaam the to sabki taraf dekhte the hum,
Shohrat mili to apni khudi mein simat gaye!

Zindagi muhtaj nahi manziloN ki,
Waqt har manzil dikha deta hai,
Marta nahi koi kisi se juda hokar,
Waqt sabko jeena shikha deta hai!!!

Iss dil ko kisi ki aahat ki aas rehti hai,
Nigaah kokisi soorat ki pyaas rehti hai,
Tere bina zindagi mein kami toh nahi,
Phir bhi tere bina zindagi udhaas rehti hai

Nadi jab kinaara chhod deti hain..

Raah ki chattaan tak todd deti hain..;

Baat chhoti si agar choobh jaate hai dil mein..

Jindagi ke raaston ko modd deti hain..!!!

Ankhon ki awaaz kuch aur hoti hai,

Aansson ki aag kuch aur hoti hai,

Kaun chahta hai apno se bichadna,

Majnuriyon ki baat kuch aur hoti hai…

Tumhari yaadon ko rok paana hai muskil,

Rote hue to manana hai muskil.

Ye dil aapko kitna yaad karta hai,

Ek sms me likh paana hai muskil

Har dil ek raaj hota hai,

Har baar ka ek andaaz hota hai.

Jab tak naa lagen bewafai ki thokar,

Har kisi ko apni pasand par naaz hota hai.

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Friday, August 31, 2007

THINK ABOUT IT

THINK ABOUT IT

Today before you think of saying an unkind word
Think of someone who can't speak

Before you complain about the taste of your food
Think of someone who has nothing to eat

Before you complain about your husband or wife
Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion

Today before you complain about life
Think of someone who went too early to heaven
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Before you complain about your children
Think of someone who desires children but they're barren

Before you argue about your dirty house; someone didn't clean or sweep
Think of the people who are living in the streets

Before whining about the distance you drive
Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet

And when you are tired and complain about your job
Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another
Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down
Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around

ADJUST TO LIFE

A man and his girlfriend were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all.

The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.

A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." she offered.

"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together."

The husband agreed, so each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.

The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists.

"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes.

"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your lists."

The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it.

"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily.

Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you."

The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.

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In life, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.

We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.

Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us?

I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST WHEN we see and praise the good and try our best to forget the bad. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfect ness in them to change the way we see them.

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WORTHY THOUGHTS

Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.
You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.
Love...and you shall be loved.
God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with him.
All people smile in the same language.
A hug is a great gift,one size fits all.It can be given for any occasion and it's easy to exchange.
Everyone needs to be loved, especially when they do not deserve it.
The real measure of a man's wealth is what he has invested in eternity.
Laughter is God's sunshine.
Everything has beauty but not everyone sees it.
It's important for parents to live the same things they teach.
Thank God for what you have , TRUST GOD for what you need.
If you fill your your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you have no today to be thankful for.
Happy memories never wear out...Relive the m as often as you want.
Home is the place where we grumble the most, but are often treated the best.
Man looks at outward appearance but Lord looks within.
The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.
take time to laugh for it is the music of the soul.
If any one speaks badly of you,live so none will believe it.
Patience is the ability to idle your motor,when you feel like stripping your gears.
love is strengthened by working through conflicts together.
The best thing parents can do for their children is to love each other.
Harsh words break no bones but they do break hearts.
To get out of a difficulty, one usually must go through it.
We take fro granted the things that we should be giving things for.
Love is the only thing that can be divided, without being diminished.
Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others.
You are richer today if you have laughed ,given or forgiven.
For every minute you are angry with someone, you lose 60 seconds of happiness that you can never get back.
Do what you can , for who you can,with what you have and where you are.

THE PURUIT OF HAPPINESS

The Pursuit of Happiness
Imagine someone holding a glass full of clean, fresh water and complaining about thirst. You would likely suggest they first take a sip from the glass in their hand. Happiness is similar. It may be right in front of you but you're not able to recognize it. Everyone wants to be happy, but not everyone can recognize happiness and stay with it. They get caught up in looking for something new, something more, to make them happy. The experience of happiness is lost when it becomes an insatiable pursuit for more.

The difference between experiencing happiness and pursuing it is similar to the difference between savoring and lingering over the sweetness and flavor of a mango, and quickly gobbling it up before eating the next sweet. The pursuit becomes the focus, rather than the experience or the satisfaction that comes from what we do have.

This endless pursuit for happiness can consume us for all of our lives. We may think that once we have more money, a relationship, or that perfect job we'll be happy, yet when we get there we find it's not what we'd hoped for, or we don't take the time to really enjoy it.

There is always something more to be pursued, bought, owned, done, that we rarely enjoy what is in front of us. Even the search for spirituality is pursued in this manner. People go from spiritual leader to leader searching for meaning, often going as far as India to find fulfillment.

The pattern is easily recognizable, and we can all fall into it with thoughts like " back="white">

In 1948, Life magazine brought together a group of labor-union representatives, industrial leaders, university scholars, and clergy to discuss what the framers of the United States Constitution had in mind when they referred to “the pursuit of happiness.” They agreed that steady work under good conditions at a living wage was absolutely essential. Some included the values of racial fairness, unselfishness, and integrity.

This led one participant, a brilliant young woman who had been crippled by polio, to say, “It is my experience that suffering and pain are, unfortunately, great character builders – not that suffering is good in itself, but because it often helps to shift our expectation of happiness from without to a search for it from within.” True, but we can find inner happiness only be knowing God personally and walking the path of trust and obedience.

Happiness isn’t found by pursuing it. It’s a byproduct of seeking an ever-closer walk with God. When we do, we will find a depth of happiness no person or thing can give. That’s what David referred to when he said, “Taste and see that the Lord is good; blessed is the man who trusts in Him!” Psalm 34:8

Here are two exercises to help you stay happy:

Count Your Blessings - Pessimists have a hard time looking at the glass as half full, which can obscure good feelings and lead them to dwell on misfortune or small annoyances. The key is to cultivate gratitude, which studies show can increase life satisfaction. Write down three good things that happen each day. When we can focus on the blessings God gives us each day, happiness follows.

Start a Fight with Yourself - When negative thoughts fill our heads, we may have a hard time telling ourselves that we are wrong. Examine automatic beliefs about the situation. Are they unreasonably pessimistic? What are the usual consequences of these thoughts? Dispute the routine belief to interrupt the cycle of pessimism and downtrodden self-pity. Argue with yourself. You will feel energized and ready to take on the problem. Viewing situations logically and objectively can help you build a case against your pessimistic self. Ask God to help you fight your negative thoughts.

PRINCIPLES OF LIFE

Principles of life

* Winning isn't everything. But wanting to win is.

* You would achieve more, if you don't mind who gets the credit.

* When everything else is lost, the future still remains.

* Don't fight too much. Or the enemy would know your art of war.

* The only job you start at the top is when you dig a grave.

* If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for everything.

* If you do little things well, you'll do big ones better.

* Only thing that comes to you without effort is old age.

* You won't get a second chance to make the first impression.

* Only those who do nothing do not make mistakes.

* Never take a problem to your boss unless you have a solution.

* If you are not failing you're not taking enough risks.

* Don't try to get rid of bad temper by losing it.

* If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

* Those who don't make mistakes usually don't make anything

* There are two kinds of failures. Those who think and never do, and those who do and never think.

* Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.

* All progress has resulted from unpopular decisions.

* Change your thoughts and you change your world.

* Understanding proves intelligence, not the speed of the learning.

* There are two kinds of fools in this world. Those who give advise and those who don't take it.

* The best way to kill an idea is to take it to a meeting.

* Management is doing things right. Leadership is doing the right things.

* Friendship founded on business is always better than business founded on friendship.

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Thursday, August 30, 2007

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THE 13 CHARACTERISTICS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE

THE 13 CHARACTERISTICS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
(by Jeffrey J. Mayer)

I've spent many years studying successful people and have identified the skills, talents, and characteristics that enable them to succeed.

As you look at and study these skills, talents, and characteristics, you'll realize that you possess many of them yourself.

Some of these skills and talents are more dominant than others and will play a greater part in your being, or becoming, a success in the business of life.

These are the things you do well. The things you do easily and effortlessly. These are your strengths.

When you find you need a skill or talent you don't have, just go out and look for a person or group of people with the skills, talents, and training you need.

Skills and talents that complement your own. These people will become your teammates, colleagues, co-workers, professional advisors, and friends. With these combined skills and talents organizations grow, prosper, and become successful.

These are the five things you'll find every successful person has in common:

1. They have a dream.
2. They have a plan.
3. They have specific knowledge or training.
4. They're willing to work hard.
5. They don't take no for an answer.

Remember: Success begins with a state of mind. You must believe you'll be successful in order to become a success.

The following is a list of the skills, talents, and characteristics you'll find in successful people:

1. Successful People Have a Dream. They have a well-defined purpose. They have a definite goal. They know what they want.

They aren't easily influenced by the thoughts and opinions of others. They have willpower. They have ideas. Their strong desire brings strong results. They go out and do things that others say can't be done.

Remember: It only takes one sound idea to achieve success.

Remember: People who excel in life are those who produce results, not excuses. Anybody can come up with excuses and explanations for why he hasn't made it. Those who want to succeed badly enough don't make excuses.

2. Successful People Have Ambition. They want to accomplish something. They have enthusiasm, commitment, and pride.

They have self-discipline. They're willing to work hard and to go the extra mile. They have a burning desire to succeed. They're willing to do whatever it takes to get the job done.

Remember: With hard work come results. The joy in life comes with working for and achieving something.

3. Successful People Are Strongly Motivated Toward Achievement. They take great satisfaction in accomplishing a task.

4. Successful People Are Focused. They concentrate on their main goals and objectives. They don't get sidetracked.

They don't procrastinate. They work on the projects that are important, and don't allow those projects to sit until the last minute. They're productive, not just busy.

5. Successful People Learn How to Get Things Done. They use their skills, talents, energies, and knowledge to the fullest extent possible.

They do the things that need to be done, not just the things they like to do. They are willing to work hard and to commit themselves to getting the job done.

Remember: Happiness is found in doing and accomplishing, not in owning and possessing.

Anecdote: Many years ago I was asked: "Jeff, do you like pleasing habits or pleasing results?" As I pondered that probing question, and squirmed in my chair like a worm at the end of a hook, I felt as if I had painted myself into a corner.

A few moments later I answered: "I like pleasing results." From that moment on my life changed. I began to do the things that were difficult, because they enabled me to achieve my goals.

6. Successful People Take Responsibility for Their Actions. They don't make excuses. They don't blame others. They don't whine and complain.

7. Successful People Look for Solutions to Problems. They're opportunity minded. When they see opportunities they take advantage of them.

8. Successful People Make Decisions. They think about the issues and relevant facts, give them adequate deliberation and consideration, and make a decision. Decisions aren't put off or delayed, they're made now!

SuccessTip: Spend more time thinking and planning before you make your decision, and you'll make better decisions.

SuccessTip: When you don't get the expected results from the decision you've made, change your course of action. Decisions should never be carved in stone.

9. Successful People Have the Courage to Admit They've Made a Mistake. When you make a mistake, admit it, fix it, and move on. Don't waste a lot of time, energy, money, and/or other resources trying to defend a mistake or a bad decision.

Remember: When people are wrong, they may admit it to themselves. If they are handled gently and tactfully, they may admit it to others and even take pride in their frankness and broad-mindedness. But people become very defensive and angry when others try to cram their mistakes down their throats.

10. Successful People Are Self-Reliant. They have the skills, talents, and training that are needed in order to be successful.

11. Successful People Have Specific Knowledge, Training, and/or Skills and Talents. They know the things they need to know to be successful. And when they need information, knowledge, or skills and talents that they don't possess, they find someone who does possess them.

12. Successful People Work with and Cooperate with Other People. They have positive, outgoing personalities. They surround themselves with people who offer them help, support, and encouragement. They are leaders.

13. Successful People Are Enthusiastic. They're excited by what they're doing, and that excitement is contagious. They draw people to them because these people want to work with them, do business with them, and be with them.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

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INTEGRITY

Integrity is a key value for life.. One of the first thing successful salespeople learn is that you must follow through on your promises or your best customers will find someone else who will follow through. Price is a secondary concern for these customers. People with integrity prefer not to deal with people without it. We may not always be able to meet all our promises but on the rare occasions when things don't go well we must accept responsibility and find ways to correct the situation instead of assigning blame. People with integrity truly care about the problems they create by not keeping their promises.

How can we improve our integrity? First, do what you say you will do. Don't make promises you can't keep. The problem may be that your intentions are good but your scheduling is not. Second, don't make excuses for your mistakes. Accept responsibility no matter who or what is to blame because ultimately it comes down to you anyway. Lastly, put yourself in the shoes of the other person and think how you would feel if you were them. Would you be upset?

People with integrity tend to be highly successful and happy individuals that form networks that seldom associate with people that regularly violate one of the key values, integrity.

SLEEP WELL

About 1 in 3 people in America has a sleeping problem. This in turn causes numerous sick days and a general feeling of fatigue and depression. Sleeping is one of our bodies way to re-energize and heal itself. It also connects us with our subconscious mind and provides us with insight not normally available during our conscious hours. The amount of sleep people require varies by age and health but most people need between 6 and 9 hours of sleep per 24 hour period.

The following tips are fairly specific, but proper sleep comes when the entire body and soul are in balance.

Go to bed only when sleepy. If you can't sleep, or if you wake up in the middle of the night, then get up for a half hour and write about whatever is keeping you up. You can throw away what is written later if you like but get it on paper. Often we don't even know what is bugging us until it blurts out on the page. It's easier to solve problems that become visible to our eyes, and get out of our sometimes muddled minds.

Use the bed for sleeping only. Don't watch TV or worry in bed because you need to learn to associate the bed with sleeping.

Set a regular time for waking. This helps sets the biological clock for the onset of getting sleepy. Avoid naps or keep them under 30 minutes. Sleep as much as needed to feel healthy but avoid excessively long periods in bed which usually means light, fragmented sleep.

Running a fan or air cleaner can mask noises that would normally awaken light sleepers.

Hunger, hot or cold temperatures, nicotine, coffee, and alcohol, all make sleeping more difficult. Regular exercise will deepen sleep, occasional exercise will not. Sleeping pills may help on occasion but regular use may intensify sleeping problems

Empty your bladder before going to bed so you don't have to get up to use the restroom in the middle of the night.

DEALING WITH REGRETS, FAILURES AND SETBACKS

We all have our regrets, failures, and traumas in life to deal with. How we handle them shapes who and what we become. Our initial reaction may be anger, denial, fear, repression, indifference, depression, or acceptance. The key is to address the issues and grow from them, not simply repress them. We can learn more from failure and injustice than from success. Write on a piece of paper, the setback, your reaction and feelings, the possible causes of the setback and things that you could have done differently. Lastly, write down all you've learned from the experience. Learn to view difficulties as opportunities to grow stronger and smarter. If you look hard enough you will find the answers to your problems.

THE TEACHER AND THE 5TH GRADER

This is a story about a 5th grade teacher named Mrs. Thompson. On the first day of school she told the children a lie. Like many teachers, she looked at them and told them she loved them all the same. But that was impossible because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy. Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy previously and noticed that he didn't play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and he often needed a bath. And Teddy could be unpleasant in the classroom. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However when she reviewed his file she was in for a surprise. Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners ... he is a joy to be around." His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle." His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken." Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and sometimes he sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in heavy brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open his gift in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist. Teddy stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left she cried for over an hour.

On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed more alive. The more she encouraged him the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of "teacher's pets".

A year later, she found a note under her door from Teddy, telling her that she was the best teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Four years after that, she got another letter saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honors. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life. Four more years passed and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decide to go a little further. This letter was signed with the letters MD after his name.

The story doesn't end there. There was another letter the next spring. Teddy said that he had met a girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died several years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in the place at the wedding that is usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course Mrs. Thompson agreed and she even wore the bracelet Teddy had given her, and the perfume too. They hugged each other and Teddy whispered "Thank you Mrs. Thompson for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference." Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back, "Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you."

- Author unknown -

PASS IT ON

PASS IT ON

by Rev. Henry Burton

Have you ha d a kindness show n?

Pass it on;

'Twas not given for thee alone

Pass it on;

Let it travel down the years,

Let it wipe another's tears,

"Til in Heaven the deed appears-

Pass it on.

Tuesday, August 28, 2007

SAMBANDHO NI RAMMAT(AN ARTICLE IN GUJARATI)

સંબંધોની રમત – દીપક આશ

સમાજનું પ્રતિબિંબ સંબંધોમાં પડઘાય છે. સંબંધોથી જ દરેક સંસ્કૃતિ ઓળખાય છે. ભારતીય સંસ્કૃતિમાં સંબંધોનું અનેરું મહત્વ છે. સંબંધો લોહીના, મિત્રતાના, પ્રેમના, લાગણીના, ધંધાના, પાડોસીના અનેક પ્રકારે સર્જાય પણ સંબંધ એટલે સંબંધ. સંબંધની વ્યાખ્યા એક જ છે, પરંતુ તેનાં રૂપ અનેક છે. જોકે આ બધા સંબંધોમાં જેના થકી આજે વિશ્વનો વિસ્તાર વધી રહ્યો છે તે સંબંધ છે સ્ત્રી-પુરુષનો.

સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ વચ્ચેના સંબંધમાં આમ તો અનેક પાસાં છે પરંતુ મુખ્ય સંબંધ છે પતિ અને પત્નીનો. આ એવો સંબંધ છે જેમાં સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ એકબીજાને પામી-જાણી શકવાની શક્યતા સૌથી વધુ છે. આ સંબંધોમાં બન્ને એકબીજાના તન-મન અને ધન પર પણ અધિકાર ધરાવે છે. આ એવો સંબંધ છે જેમાં સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ વચ્ચે સૌથી વધુ આકર્ષણ જન્મે છે અને ત્યાર બાદ અપાકર્ષણનાં બીજ ઊગી નીકળતા વાર નથી લાગતી.

સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ વચ્ચેનો સંબંધ એટલે પ્રેમ, સમજદારી, લાગણી, નફરત, જીદ અને વિશ્વાસનો સંબંધ. આ સંબંધનું પિંડ બંધાય છે, એની શરૂઆત થાય છે ત્યારથી જ બન્ને વચ્ચે એક રમત આરંભાય છે. શરૂઆતમાં એકબીજાને પ્રભાવિત કરવા માટે શરૂ થયેલી આ રમત છેલ્લે સુધી રમાયા કરે છે. બન્ને પક્ષે સમજદારીથી વર્તવામાં આવે તો સંબંધ મધમીઠો બની રહે છે પણ બન્ને પક્ષે નાદાની કે અહમનો ટકરાવ થાય ત્યારે આ સંબંધનો અંત બહુ દૂર નથી હોતો.

સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ જ્યારે પ્રથમ વખત એકબીજાના સંપર્કમાં આવે છે ત્યારથી જ રમતની શરૂઆત થઈ જાય છે. જોકે આ રમત બીજી અન્ય રમતો કરતાં એક દષ્ટિએ સાવ નોખી પડે છે. અન્ય રમતોમાં એક પક્ષ જીતે છે જ્યારે બીજાએ હારનો સામનો કરવો પડે છે, પરંતુ સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ વચ્ચેની રમતમાં બન્ને પક્ષે પરાજિત થવાનું જ હોય છે. બધી રમતોની જેમ સ્ત્રી-પુરુષ વચ્ચેની રમતમાં પણ રણનીતિ, નિરાશા, આંસુ, દરદ અને ખુશી છે.

સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ વચ્ચેની રમતનો ફર્સ્ટ હાફ પ્રણયના ઉત્કટ દિવસોથી શરૂ થાય છે. પ્રેયસીને મળવાનું વચન આપ્યા બાદ નહિ પહોંચી શકેલો પ્રેમી સાચું કારણ આપવાને બદલે ખોટું કારણ આપે છે. રમતનો આ તબક્કો પ્રાથમિક તેમ જ નિર્દોષ હોય છે. આ સમય દરમિયાન બન્ને ખેલાડી સુરક્ષિત રમત રમતા હોય છે. આ તબક્કામાં બન્ને ખેલાડી એકબીજાને પરાસ્ત કરવાને બદલે સાચવી લેવાની ભાવના ધરાવતા હોય છે. પોતાના પ્રિય પાત્રની ભૂલો, ખામીઓ, ઊણપો, અણદેખી કરવાનો આ સમય હોય છે. આ સમયમાં પણ જીદ, ઝઘડા થાય છે ખરા પરંતુ તેમાં મીઠાશ હોય છે. આ સમયમાં પ્રતિકાર નહિ પણ પ્રતિસાદ કરવામાં આવતો હોય છે. એકબીજા માટે સર્વસ્વ અર્પણ કરી દેવાની કસમો ખાવામાં આવે છે.

રમતનો બીજો તબક્કો લગ્નજીવનનાં આરંભનાં વર્ષોથી શરૂ થાય છે. આ સમયગાળામાં બન્ને પાત્રો પર એકબીજાને પામી લીધાનો મદ ચઢ્યો હોય છે. એકબીજા માટે બધું જ કરી છૂટવાની લાગણી પર રંગ ચઢે છે. થોડી ઘણી દૂરિયાં પણ હવે નજદીકિયાં બની જાય છે. ધીમી ગતિએ આગળ વધી રહેલી જીવનની આ રમતમાં અધિકાર નામના તત્વનો પ્રવેશ થાય છે. ગઈકાલ સુધી ફરવા જવું. ફિલ્મ જોવા જવું ઉત્સવ હતો. બીજી તરફ પુરુષ પણ હવે સ્ત્રી પર માલિકીભાવ ધરાવતો થઈ જાય છે. ગઈ કાલ સુધી બન્ને નમતાં હતાં, હવે બરડ થવા માંડે છે. અધુરામાં પૂરું આવા જ સમયે અહમ નામના તત્વનો પણ પ્રવેશ થાય છે. દરેકના જીવનમાં આ તબક્કો પરીક્ષા અને ધીરજનો હોય છે.

રમતનો આ તબક્કો અંતિમ નહિ પરંતુ નિર્ણાયક હોય છે. અહીં એકબીજાને પામી લીધા બાદ પિછાણવાની રમત શરૂ થાય છે. આ સમય નિર્ણાયક એટલા માટે હોય છે, કારણ કે જિંદગીનાં આવનારાં વર્ષોમાં ક્યો ખેલાડી કેવું રમશે અને સંબંધને કેટલો ઉજાળશે એ નક્કી થઈ જાય છે. સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષ આ તબક્કામાં યુગલમાંથી પતિ-પત્ની બની જાય છે. બન્નેના સંબંધમાં જવાબદારીના ગુણાકાર થવા માંડે છે. આકર્ષણનો મદ ઊતરવા લાગે છે અને અપાકર્ષણનો તબક્કો શરૂ થાય છે. એકબીજાનું આકર્ષણ ઘટતું જવાની શક્યતા આ તબક્કામાં બળવત્તર બને છે. ક્યારેક એકતરફી, નીરસ જીવનથી કંટાળીને ખેલાડીઓ બાહ્ય પરિમાણની શોધમાં નીકળી પડે છે.

રમતના ત્રીજા તબક્કામાં જીવનની કડવી વાસ્તવિકતાઓ સ્તર પર આવવા માંડે છે. પુરુષમાં રહેલો પ્રેમી ક્યાંક ખોવાઈ જાય છે. જ્યારે સ્ત્રી માત્ર પત્ની બનીને રહી જાય છે. આ તબક્કામાં બન્ને ખેલાડી પોતાના દરેક પાસા ખુલ્લા પાડીને મેદાનમાં ઊતરી ગયા હોય છે. આવા સમયે અહમ્ જો માથે ચઢીને બોલે તો આ તબક્કામાં સંબંધ વણસ્યા વગર રહેતો નથી. ધીરજ ખોઈ બેસનારાં સ્ત્રી-પુરુષ બન્ને પક્ષે હાનિ પહોંચાડે છે. હાનિ પહોંચાડનારાં સ્ત્રી-પુરુષના મોટા ભાગના કિસ્સાઓમાં એકેય પક્ષને એ જાણ નથી હોતી કે સંબંધોની આ રમતમાં બેમાંથી એકેય ખેલાડી જીતતો નથી.

જીવનના ત્રણ તબક્કામાં ખેલદિલીભરી રમત રમીને હારજીત વગર આગળ નીકળી ગયેલા સ્ત્રી-પુરુષ માટે ચોથો અને છેલ્લો તબક્કો સુવર્ણકાળ બની જાય છે. જીવનના અંતિમ તબક્કામાં સ્ત્રી-પુરુષમાં પરિપક્વતા એ હદે આવી ગઈ હોય છે કે કોઈ પણ બાબત બન્નેમાંથી એકેયને હલાવી નથી શકતી અને જીવનની નાવ પોતાના કિનારા તરફ અવિરત ચાલ્યા જ કરે છે.

સીતાજીએ જ્યારે જંગલમાં રામને મૃગ પાછળ દોડવાનું કહ્યું હતું ત્યારે એક રમત જ રમી હતી. પતિદેવ પાસેથી મનગમતી ભેટ મેળવવાની સીતાની આ રમત હતી. જ્યારે મૃગ પાછળ દોડતા રામના મનમાં પણ પત્નીને જે ગમી તે વસ્તુ ભેટમાં આપવાની રમત હતી. જીવનમાં એકબીજાની ખુશી માટે આવી રમતો રમાતી જ રહે છે. દરેકના જીવનમાં આવી રમતો રમાતી રહે તો પુરુષ અને સ્ત્રીના સંબંધને ઊની આંચ પણ નથી આવતી. સ્ત્રી અને પુરુષના સંબંધમાં આવી નિર્દોષ રમત કરતાં સદોષ રમતો વધુ રમાતી રહે છે. એવું થવાનું મુખ્ય કારણ અહમ છે. એકાદ પક્ષે ગમ ખાઈ જવાની ખેલદિલી હોય ત્યાં સુધી અહમ આડો આવતો નથી. સંબંધોના વણસાવાથી માંડી તેના વિચ્છેદન સુધીની તમામ તિરાડો માટે અહમ જ જવાબદાર હોય છે. અહમ જ્યારે વધારે, સ્ત્રી-પુરુષના જીવનમાં રમાતી રમતોની તીવ્રતા તેટલી જ વધારે હોય છે.

અલબત્ત, આ ચાર તબક્કા લગભગ દરેકના જીવનમાં અચૂક આવતા જ હોય છે. દરેક તબક્કામાં સંબંધોનો સરવાળો-બાદબાકી-ભાગાકાર અને ગુણાકાર મંડાય છે. શરૂઆતના તબક્કામાં સમજદારી, ધીરજ અને એકબીજાને સાચવી લેવાની રણનીતિ અપનાવનારાં સ્ત્રી-પુરુષના જીવનના બાકીના તબક્કા સંબંધોના ગુણાકારથી જ ભરાઈ જાય છે અને છેવટે જીત થાય છે બન્નેની લાગણીઓ અને જીવનભરના પ્રેમની.

CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE CHANGE YOUR LIFE

If we are the products of our attitudes then it is important for us to examine our attitudes, both positive and negative, to discover the impact they are having on our lives. This is even more important if we are determined to maximize the potential that is ours, a potential which, in the vast majority of us, remains grossly underdeveloped.

Positive attitudes release a power to achieve that will astound you, while negative attitudes severely hamper our becoming the people we are capable of becoming. It become the central task of anyone interested in actualizing their enormous potential to become involved in the process of attitudinal transformation.

Attitudinal transformation takes time, effort and determination but it can be done. Don't expect perfection, just progress. It took a long time to develop negative attitudes and it will take time to transform them. It is also important not to concentrate on more than one or two negative attitudes at once. If you overload your agenda for change you run the risk of becoming discouraged and giving up.

Once you have identified the negative attitude you wish to transform, commit yourself to the process of becoming conscious of that attitude cropping up throughout the day. You will be surprised at how quickly you will become aware of your target attitude. When you are focussed on the attitude, visualize it leaving your body and flying off into the great beyond. Now replace it with a positive attitude and give yourself the suggestion that from now on this will be your dominant thought pattern. Whenever your old negative attitude creeps back into your mind engage this process of thought replacement. Soon the new attitude will become dominant and you will find yourself enjoying its positive power in your life.

Be gentle with yourself when you fall back into the old pattern of thinking. Believe that the change you desire will come more frequently and it will. It might help to remember that human beings use between 2 and ten percent of their mind's potential so you have a huge reservoir of unused potential to help you over any periods of discouragement.

Don't forget to continue to use humour to keep your spirits up and put the entire process in perspective. HUMOUR MAKES GOOD THINGS HAPPEN.

-- Mike Moore

THAT'S HOW LIFE IS

THAT'S HOW LIFE IS
Life is like having a cup of tea.You sit by the window,lift the cup take a careless sip and find no sugar.

Too lazy to go for the sugar,you somehow manage to drink that sugarless tea.

On finishing you discover undissolved sugar crystals settled at the bottom.

Thats how life is, we do not make any effort,we dont observe nor notice,what is around or within us.
So look around may be the sweetness you are looking for is closer than you think.

Human values cannot be promoted merely by repeating the words - Sathya (Truth), Dharma (Righteousness) , Shanti (Peace), Prema (Love) and Ahimsa (Non-violence) . A righteous life leads to peace. Love is to be experienced in the depths of peace. Love should find expression in non-violence. Where love prevails, there is no room for doing harm or indulging in violence towards others. All these basic values have to be demonstrated in action and not limited to preaching.

CHOTE MANN SE KOI BHI BADA NAHI HOTA(HINDI POEM)

CHOTE MANN SE KOI BHI BADA NAHI HOTA
(A HINDI POEM)

Chote Mann Se Koi Bhi Bada Nahi Hota
Tute Mann Se Koi Bhi Khadda Nahi Hota

Vishwas Aur Himmat Ko Thame Rakhna
Himmton Ke Bina Sangharsh Koi Pura Nahi Hota

Jab Tak Ho Na Safal Himmat Ko Na Tayago Tum
Sangharshon Ka Maidan Chod Kar Na Bhago Tum

Bin Kiye Kuch Yuhin Jai Jai Kar Nahi Hoti
Sangharsh Karne Walon Ki Kabhi Haar Nahi Hoti

Manzilen Unko Hi Milti Hain Jinke Sapnon Mein Hai Jaan Hoti
Pankhon Se Nahi Arey Hoslon Se Hai Udan Hoti

-Author Unknown

AGLOCO:OWN YOUR INTERNET

AGLOCO:OWN YOUR INTERNET

Dear ______,

I recently joined AGLOCO because of a friend recommended it to me. I am now promoting it to you because I like the idea and I want you to share in what I think will be an exciting new Internet concept.

AGLOCO’s story is simple:

Do you realize how valuable you are? Advertisers, search providers and online retailers are paying billions to reach you while you surf. How much of that money are you making? NONE!

AGLOCO thinks you deserve a piece of the action.

AGLOCO collects money from those companies on behalf of its members. (For example, Google currently pays AOL 10 cents for every Google search by an AOL user. And Google still has enough profit to pay $1.6 billion dollars for YouTube, an 18-month old site full of content that YouTube’s users did not get paid for!

AGLOCO will work to get its Members their share of this and more.

AGLOCO is building a new form of online community that they call an Economic Network. They are not only paying Members their fair share, but they’re building a community that will generate the kind of fortune that YouTube made. But instead of that wealth making only a few people rich, the entire community will get its share.

What's the catch? No catch - no spyware, no pop-ups and no spam - membership and software are free and AGLOCO is 100% member owned. Privacy is a core value and AGLOCO never sells or rents member information.

So do both of us a favor: Sign up for AGLOCO right now! If you use this link to sign up, I automatically get credit for referring you and helping to build AGLOCO. http://www.agloco.com/r/BBCT0823

Thanks

Monday, August 27, 2007

IF...

If...

(A poem that never fails to inspire me, everytime I read it)

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!

- Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936).

SOMEONE SOMEWHERE...

SOMEONE SOMEWHERE...

Someone, somewhere,
dreams of you and smiles,
And while thinking of you says
Life is worthwhile.
So when you are feeling lonely
Remember, it's true
Someone, somewhere,
is thinking of you.

WAYS TO PRACTICE LOVE

WAYS TO PRACTICE LOVE:

Accept people as they are, without judgement
Speak kind words of encouragement
Care enough to set clear boundaries for yourself and your children
Love people the most when they don't "deserve" it
Discipline yourself to think loving thoughts
Show love through acts of kindness and community service
Avoid viewing hatred and violence in the media
Notice the many loving acts others perform each day
Put the good of the whole community above self-interest
Connect with the Divine Source of Love

GET BUSY

GET BUSY

Have you suffered through a difficult disappointment? The best way out is to get busy.

Is there a challenging obstacle standing firmly in your path? The way to get around it is to get busy.

Do you feel lousy because nothing is going your way? You'll quickly start to feel more positive and empowered when you do whatever it takes to get yourself moving forward.

It may seem natural to whine and complain and feel sorry for yourself. But that will just make things worse.

Instead, put yourself in the business of making things better. Take one small step forward, see how great it feels, then choose to take another and another and another.

Put forth some effort and put yourself in charge of your own destiny. Get busy, get going, and soon the troubles of this moment will be far behind you.

-- Ralph Marston

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POSITIVE PERSONALITY

POSITIVE PERSONALITY

Rejoice, and men will seek you;

Grieve, and turn and go;

They want full measure of all your pleasure,

but they do not need your woe,

Be glad, and your friends are many;

Be sad, and you lose them all-

There are none to decline your nectared wine,

but alone you must drink life's gall.

-Ella Wheeler Wilcox

ALWAYS REMEMBER

Always remember to forget

The things that made you sad

But never forget to remember

The things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget

The things that proved untrue.

But don't forget to remember

Those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget

The troubles that have passed away.

But never forget to remember

The blessings that come each day...

CHEERS

BEING VEGETARIAN

BEING VEGETARIAN

Vegetarians are those who do not consume meat, fish, and poultry. There are many reasons for being a vegetarian. Some of them are born in vegetarian families and naturally they become vegetarians.

Some took to vegetarianism due to health, ecological, and religious concerns, dislike of meat, compassion for animals, belief in non-violence, and economics. Researches have proved that even a vegetarian diet can meet all known nutrient needs.

Vegetarians can depend on a wide variety of foods, including fruits, vegetables, plenty of leafy greens, whole grain products, nuts, seeds, and legumes for their nutrient needs.

Some of the major vegetarian categories include:
• Ovo-Vegetarian - Eats eggs but no meat
• Lacto-Ovo Vegetarian - Eats dairy and egg products but no meat
• Lacto-Vegetarian - Eats dairy products but no eggs or meat
• Vegan - Eats only food from plant sources

Various nutrients which can be found in vegetarian food categories are given below.
• Vitamin B12
o Dairy products
o Eggs
o Vitamin-fortified products, such as cereals, breads, and soy and rice drinks

• Vitamin D
o Dairy products
o Calcium-fortified orange juice
o Vitamin-fortified products

• Calcium
o Dairy products
o Dark green leafy vegetables
o Broccoli
o Chickpeas
o Calcium-fortified products, including orange juice, soy and rice drinks, and cereals
o Collard greens
o Turnip greens
o Tofu prepared with calcium

• Protein
o Dairy products
o Eggs
o Tofu
o Beans
o Nuts
o Lentils
o Seeds
o Chickpeas
o Whole grain bread
o Greens
o Potatoes
o Corns

• Iron
o Eggs
o Beans
o Dry fruits
o Whole grains
o Leafy green vegetables
o Iron-fortified cereals
o Bread
o Baked potatoes
o Mushrooms
o Cashews
o Spinach
o Chard
o Tofu
o Bulgur

• Zinc
o Wheat germ
o Nuts
o Fortified cereal
o Legumes

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Sunday, August 26, 2007

OUR EXPECTATIONS

Our Expectations

A turtle family went on a picnic. The turtles, being naturally slow about things, took seven years to prepare for their outings. Finally the Turtle family left home looking for a suitable place. During the second year of their journey they found it. For about six months they cleaned up the area, unpacked the picnic basket, and completed the arrangements.

Then they discovered they had forgotten the salt. A picnic without salt would be a disaster, they all agreed. After a lengthy discussion, the youngest turtle was chosen to retrieve the salt from home. Although he was the fastest of the slow moving turtles, the little turtle whined, cried, and wobbled in his shell.

He agreed to go on one condition: that no one would eat until he returned. The family consented and the little turtle left.Three years passed and the little turtle had not returned.Five years â Six years… Then in the seventh year of his absence, the oldest turtle could no longer contain his hunger. He announced that he was going to eat and began to unwrap a sandwich. At that point the little turtle suddenly popped out from behind a tree shouting, “SEE I knew you wouldn’t wait. Now I am not going to go get the salt.”
Lesson Learned:
Some of us waste our time waiting for people to live up to our expectations. We are so concerned about what others are doing that we don’t do anything ourselves.

IMAGE

To My True Friend...........................!!!

The day I met you

I found a friend

And a friendship that I pray will

never end.

This friendship we share

is so precious to me,

I hope it grows and flourishes.

And lasts unto infinity.

Amen.

You are so extra-special to me

And so this to you I really must tell:

You are my one true friend.

Our friendship is

one-in-a-million.

So let's hold on to it and each

other. We cannot let this

chance of pure bliss fly away

For there will never be

another.

I love you.

I will always love you.

DESIDERATA

DESIDERATA

Go plasidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace the re may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quiertly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievments as well as your plans.

keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. but let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many

persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and didenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labours and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

-Max Ehrmann